Today I am privileged to be a part of a very special blog tour as part of National Fertility Awareness week. When I was approached by the RedDoor team about this book I knew it was going to be a special one and I jumped at the chance to be involved. Now let me tell you about Dear You…
Blurb: Tess Broad wanted children. She longed for them. It wasn’t to be. In this candid and moving memoir, Tess writes to the children that never were. She writes to them as their adult selves with openness and honesty and tells them of the childhood she envisaged for them and the mother she believed she would be. She describes her reluctant transformation from the woebegone, wannabe mummy that she once was, to the woman she is now; childless but chilled, sailing through Mother’s Day with a smile on her face. Happy. From the ‘trying for a family’ stage to the relentless treadmill of infertility treatment, Tess recounts her story with humour and pathos, taking the reader on her journey with her, sharing her experiences, the roller-coaster ride of IVF, the sudden departure of the husband whose children she wanted to have and ultimately to acceptance that the life she wanted and expected was not hers for the taking. This is a breathtaking memoir that offers a shoulder to lean on for everyone experiencing the uncertainties and pain of infertility.
Review: As I say when this pinged through to my email I knew I had to get involved. I have had this book sat on my side table for a while now but I wanted to read it right in time for National Fertility Awareness week.
What can I say?
Dear you is a poignant and heartfelt letter from a mother to her unborn children. This book is special, Tessa has a way of conveying a serious and in the most part a sad tale with her own added humour. I guess we all use humour where we need to help protect our feelings. Don’t get me wrong she conveys her anguish and anger also. I like the quote she has used from Stephen Fry – Making light of something heavy makes it easier to bear. It’s so true and that statement can be said for other situations.
I love how real and raw this memoir is and I feel bad for saying this as this is something that has really happened to Tess. Nowadays the stigma has changed slightly but there is still a lot of work to be done, thanks to Tess and I’m sure there are others who have shared their own stories there is more out there.
Her story is real and it will make you stop and think. I don’t have any children myself and I am getting along in age where the questions come up. I haven’t felt the sadness that Tessa has but I haven’t tried but for me there is still a stigma where people ask questions when they have no knowledge of the other persons situation.
In this take Tessa explains about various forms of treatments and tests and it sounds so hard going. I don’t want to say too much as I want you to read this gorgeous book for yourself. Tessa’s letters to her children are gorgeous and will stay with you…
Never ever judge anyone you don’t know what battles they are fighting, or why their situation is the way it is.
Thank you to RedDoor books and for Tessa for this heart wrenching story….